It's time for you to finish work. You kept to your schedule. You've finished your homework. You close the computer to go and rest, but when you go to bed, or try to disconnect, you don't succeed:
- You think about what you have pending that you left "for later" because it is more complicated to do and the deadline is approaching.
- You think about what is someone else's responsibility, but it affects you if it is not done well, and you are distressed that you have no control over the situation.
- You think about the things that need to be solved at home, with your children, your partner, money.
Haven't you noticed that, even if you fulfill all your responsibilities, there is always something else to think about or worry about?
What can you do to not get overwhelmed, to disconnect your mind, and to rest not only physically, but mentally and emotionally as well?
If regardless of how your work day has been - good, bad, intense, relaxed - you still feel the same, this tells us that it is something you can change if you change the way you interpret the situation. Let me explain:
Ask yourself every time you find yourself spinning your head, thinking about things you are not going to solve at that moment, if something is really changing just because you are worried .
If instead of thinking about what has you distressed or anxious, you think about anything else, what would change in your environment? -Exactly. I wouldn't change anything.
That is, if you deliberately choose to let go of the worry, you will realize that you are the one in control. You have the power to calm your mind and relax your body.
An excellent exercise, is to ACCEPT the worry: "okay, I understand that I'm worried about this - and that" and then, the magic question, "so, did something change or get resolved or am I just giving up my peace because of the worry?" - followed by choosing thoughts that are in line with how you want to feel.
