While it is extremely important to answer the question "How can I manage stress?", it is equally—or even more—important to answer "What can I do to reduce my stress levels?"
In the case of the first, it is how to calm ourselves once we are already stressed; in the case of the second, it is what to do so that we don't have to apply the first so much—even if the situations are the same, how can I interpret them with less stress and more clarity?
Learning to change how we perceive everyday events can make the difference between a chaotic life and a harmonious one.
So, let's get down to business.
The key is to start regulating yourself BEFORE you become stressed: The first step is to recognize: "Okay, I'm starting to get stressed, why?"
Questions always show the way:
- What is the WORST that can happen if things don't turn out the way I have in mind?
- Am I projecting my peace of mind onto the results? Can I remain calm even if things don't turn out the way I want them to?
- How would you interpret this same situation if you weren't stressed?
This is a "stress moment to stress moment" exercise. A quick scan of our thoughts and the right questions change how we see the event.
The most important thing is to always keep in mind the magic phrase , "I can see this situation without stressing out. I can see this situation without fear/anger/distress." The root of interpretation lies within us, not in the event itself.
